Sorry When Words Are No Longer Enough. Life is often a series of life. Without predictable, most people find themselves moving from one moment to another - and every moment it is connected by a moment of surprise which eventually throw you into the future. This may not be more true than during our courtship year. Our relationship is so filled with hope and optimistic attitude, and not quite sure what kind of future will we face, most people are seekers. What they are looking for is someone special - which will help them determine the future and show them what they should do exactly. Problems are often encountered is that we meet the right person at the wrong time in our lives. They may love us, we can love them in return - but in the end we make decisions or take action which we think is appropriate at that time. Then one day, we find ourselves feeling guilty and regret and realize that sometimes, the word sorry is not enough to heal the pain we have done to others.
The following story is a common story. A young people meet. They fall into a burst of emotion that they thought it was love, and eventually both the boy and the girls wanted to take him to a more serious level. They started talking about marriage, home and children. Suddenly, the table of love becomes very unbalanced and one who is more loved - have a secret advantage over others. And they know what they think is important is there waiting for him to take a further step, to grow only by laboring things go well or do the right thing. However, people may be hesitant, he felt he had more potential - and run with it.
Although they know that they put other people's lives on a rope, but they were glad that there are other people who are waiting for them. Comfortable feeling that is so controlled and highly addictive. Most importantly, they are very aware that they are loved, they put love on hold - even if it must go through a series of unpleasant and painful. Instead of saying goodbye - to end the relationship in which they live, they behave in ways that hurtful, abusive, spiteful and selfish. They hope their actions will somehow explain why someday, but they generally know there is someone who is always waiting when all matches in the life of them down.
While they know what they should do, they enjoy a power trip who is loved by someone so deep that they are willing to wait. And in the course of this immaturity, they end up hurting other people is pathetic. Unfortunately, even when that fateful day and undeniable that came and those who wait has come to the end point of patience and choose to go, for goodness at this time - a selfish party was never realized the extent of damage they have caused. Often, not until many years later - when they see the mistakes they have done, thinking it continues to disturb and haunt them. At that time, they may have married and have children with someone else. They may live the same life that they strive to avoid them in the past. However, they start thinking about their partners in the past and feels bad about how she treated him in the past, and wondering whether their lives would be like today if they choose to do some things differently.
The sad fact is kebanyalan people has become a more loving party - or those who are more loved in a relationship - at least once in our lives. Our actions during the time it can sometimes be a burden and there is a point in life where you want to say you're sorry for what has happened. The possibility that there is when it has a little too late.
If you think your life back, you will realize during the years of madness will be the life of an impulsive and full of doubt, there are people that cross your life worthwhile. They help to make these years so enjoyable and secretly played a large part of who you are today. Call it immaturity or ignorance as you are, in fact most of us are so busy living in those days - moment by moment - so we are rarely aware of the past week. So when love into our lives, even though maybe you know it, but you can not accept it the way they should. It even happens to good people though and you need to apologize. But when you want to apologize, this guy had cut the bond that exists between you having to deal with the emotional damage that occurred and he did this not more an attempt to calm herself.
So, how can you fix what you have done - especially if it involves someone's heart? Especially if he is a man who truly loved you? Even if it seems to have happened in the past! What if mere apology is not enough?
In some cases, may be sufficient for that person just know that you are suffering. Perhaps you have been causing the pain in their lives so badly that at this point, they will not really care if you are hit by a bus. However, knowing that the person who has hurt them feel bad and perhaps even regret, may be little to calm their victory. Should you hunt them, find them on the internet - just so you can give satisfaction to their end? The answer depends on what your actual apology.
Often, bad things about the apology is largely not about the person you hurt. Most apology stems from selfishness and guilt and only spoken in an effort to let go of your feelings. So, in asking for forgiveness, you really just continuing the same type of selfish behavior that makes you start all this mess. However, if the apology came from the honesty with which you are aware of the pain caused to others - and that means to restore his heart rather than your own feelings, you may want at least to try.
It is important also to consider that just because you feel you need to say sorry, that does not mean other people will accept it with ease. In life, hurt someone who loves you until he felt a profound sense of pain is an offense that can not be forgiven. Are you ready to not be forgiven? Before you send email or call, you also have to wonder if you came and revived the pain in one's life is not a type of business altogether. Writing a letter or send an email and express your feelings to someone who has hurt you can evoke feelings that the person is actually not want to deal with it anymore. In this case, of course it becomes unfair to the people you hurt.
The reality is the word of forgiveness is often not enough. And there is nothing you can do to cancel it or do things that can make it better. Instead, you must learn to live with the actions and decisions that have been thought out beforehand. The world continues to spin and this person ever in your mind many years ago - now continue to revolve in your mind. Maybe the universe is trying to tell you something when a certain song being played on the radio and relive your past. You also must decide whether to face your punishment is something you can correct or you have to menbersihkan yourself by opening and disposing of old wounds that will bring good. The bottom line is there are some actions you must take in life, but who more importantly is how you realize that every action and decision you can make a huge impact the lives of others. Therefore, live wisely.
The following story is a common story. A young people meet. They fall into a burst of emotion that they thought it was love, and eventually both the boy and the girls wanted to take him to a more serious level. They started talking about marriage, home and children. Suddenly, the table of love becomes very unbalanced and one who is more loved - have a secret advantage over others. And they know what they think is important is there waiting for him to take a further step, to grow only by laboring things go well or do the right thing. However, people may be hesitant, he felt he had more potential - and run with it.
Although they know that they put other people's lives on a rope, but they were glad that there are other people who are waiting for them. Comfortable feeling that is so controlled and highly addictive. Most importantly, they are very aware that they are loved, they put love on hold - even if it must go through a series of unpleasant and painful. Instead of saying goodbye - to end the relationship in which they live, they behave in ways that hurtful, abusive, spiteful and selfish. They hope their actions will somehow explain why someday, but they generally know there is someone who is always waiting when all matches in the life of them down.
While they know what they should do, they enjoy a power trip who is loved by someone so deep that they are willing to wait. And in the course of this immaturity, they end up hurting other people is pathetic. Unfortunately, even when that fateful day and undeniable that came and those who wait has come to the end point of patience and choose to go, for goodness at this time - a selfish party was never realized the extent of damage they have caused. Often, not until many years later - when they see the mistakes they have done, thinking it continues to disturb and haunt them. At that time, they may have married and have children with someone else. They may live the same life that they strive to avoid them in the past. However, they start thinking about their partners in the past and feels bad about how she treated him in the past, and wondering whether their lives would be like today if they choose to do some things differently.
The sad fact is kebanyalan people has become a more loving party - or those who are more loved in a relationship - at least once in our lives. Our actions during the time it can sometimes be a burden and there is a point in life where you want to say you're sorry for what has happened. The possibility that there is when it has a little too late.
If you think your life back, you will realize during the years of madness will be the life of an impulsive and full of doubt, there are people that cross your life worthwhile. They help to make these years so enjoyable and secretly played a large part of who you are today. Call it immaturity or ignorance as you are, in fact most of us are so busy living in those days - moment by moment - so we are rarely aware of the past week. So when love into our lives, even though maybe you know it, but you can not accept it the way they should. It even happens to good people though and you need to apologize. But when you want to apologize, this guy had cut the bond that exists between you having to deal with the emotional damage that occurred and he did this not more an attempt to calm herself.
So, how can you fix what you have done - especially if it involves someone's heart? Especially if he is a man who truly loved you? Even if it seems to have happened in the past! What if mere apology is not enough?
In some cases, may be sufficient for that person just know that you are suffering. Perhaps you have been causing the pain in their lives so badly that at this point, they will not really care if you are hit by a bus. However, knowing that the person who has hurt them feel bad and perhaps even regret, may be little to calm their victory. Should you hunt them, find them on the internet - just so you can give satisfaction to their end? The answer depends on what your actual apology.
Often, bad things about the apology is largely not about the person you hurt. Most apology stems from selfishness and guilt and only spoken in an effort to let go of your feelings. So, in asking for forgiveness, you really just continuing the same type of selfish behavior that makes you start all this mess. However, if the apology came from the honesty with which you are aware of the pain caused to others - and that means to restore his heart rather than your own feelings, you may want at least to try.
It is important also to consider that just because you feel you need to say sorry, that does not mean other people will accept it with ease. In life, hurt someone who loves you until he felt a profound sense of pain is an offense that can not be forgiven. Are you ready to not be forgiven? Before you send email or call, you also have to wonder if you came and revived the pain in one's life is not a type of business altogether. Writing a letter or send an email and express your feelings to someone who has hurt you can evoke feelings that the person is actually not want to deal with it anymore. In this case, of course it becomes unfair to the people you hurt.
The reality is the word of forgiveness is often not enough. And there is nothing you can do to cancel it or do things that can make it better. Instead, you must learn to live with the actions and decisions that have been thought out beforehand. The world continues to spin and this person ever in your mind many years ago - now continue to revolve in your mind. Maybe the universe is trying to tell you something when a certain song being played on the radio and relive your past. You also must decide whether to face your punishment is something you can correct or you have to menbersihkan yourself by opening and disposing of old wounds that will bring good. The bottom line is there are some actions you must take in life, but who more importantly is how you realize that every action and decision you can make a huge impact the lives of others. Therefore, live wisely.
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